Single woman adoption and sexism - a no tolerance zone!

Parenting by any measure is a tough/life changing job. When adding adoption as a single gal to the mix most folks say, "Wow! You must really have energy!"  Or, "I could never do it."  I find such comments odd, yet not unusual. Folks do not regularly know what they can handle and I believe it is because they may not have planned well enough. Since I love by my Aunt Pat's motto, "Prior planning prevents a poor performance" I really do not feel unprepared to be a parent, however the universe beings a baby to me. 

Just recentlg another single, adoptive mother-to-be posted that she had gotten her first negative comment for wanting to adopt as a single gal. My response is below, 

"You are an amazing angel who is willing to share her home and her heart with another beautiful being to help them experience a lovely life, learn, laugh, grow, flourish, heal, and inspire. Frankly, I don't tolerate those who live by 1900 values where it was okay to be rude to women, take away their voice.  It is completely unacceptable and I immediately nip it in he bud because sexism (well, actually any -ism) is just utter ignorance and needs to be shaken up to be stopped!  

I must have done something backwards because I started with getting all the support I would need/want before even calling a home study agency. Then, I hired my attorney (kind of made me feel it was official and I had some backbone). Next, I asked a friend to do my home study, which didn't pan out so I called Connecting Hearts to do my study. Amy was great and helped share my story even invited me to a free "A Family of My Own" conference where I learned so much great stuff. Now, I am waiting to hear if the birth mother chose me as she's in with her counselor today. Basically, though this whole process when I felt worried or wondered about my abilities to "do it" all my support team stepped up and said, "You are a perfect mother."  Keep repeating that mantra to yourself and be the brave voice your child needs you toward the way for a better world."